Unresolved Trauma

I just realized today, TODAY, after years and years of therapy, that I am trying to heal my father. He’s gone now, but the three most important/longest relationships in my life were with men that are an only child. Just like my father. #mindblown

What does that mean? Probably that I’m trying to heal my father. And I resent it. Steve was such a good guy but screwed up. Andrew was also a good guy but couldn’t get it together. Doug is also a good guy at times, but such a jerk at times. They all encompass my father.

How do I heal this?